When women feel they must choose between a man and a career
When women feel they must choose between a man and their career, I think they are looking at men in a negative light, not giving enough credit to the genuine hearts of the male sex. I feel they are categorizing them as some type of human anchor, someone who will either put them in a kitchen in the suburbs or play with their heart, distracting them from their dreams. Not every man on earth is looking for a cookie cutter, Mrs. Home maker, to vacuum in high heels while he watches football after a day at the cubicle. Not every man wants to distract you from your dreams- the good hearted ones actually appreciate a woman with a strong backbone and a dedicated spirit.
I feel they are not considering that men have dreams too, and that love is a partnership. I strongly believe that I can have love, AND a career. I have never been serious about men until I met someone I can see a future with. I for one knew I would never give up my dreams in the art world for a man who didn’t understand. I suppose I decided that no man would ever understand. But I was wrong because what I found in the past year is a man who would actually support my dreams and motivate me to grow in my artwork. It is possible to have both a career and a love life, I have been making progress in my education with a partner who is more than willing to pose for figure studies, drive out to the city to transport a heavy piece of work, and give honest opinions about color pallet and subject matter— or maybe if your a lucky one, he will pick up some flowers and come to you after a frantic phone call, crying over a failing painting. They don’t have to have the same dreams as you- they just have to appreciate your work and your talents, to motivate and encourage. I feel love and a successful career can go hand in hand once you find the right person to be your teammate.
